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I swear, you are getting better and better at this writing stuff, Rudolph. Firing on all your cylinders.

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"It’s ostentatious, exaggerated, affected, theatrical nonsense. But we’re all expected to play along with it, to have an affirming bit part in their self-indulgent drama. " Yep, copying this phrase as well as the many others I've shamelessly nicked from you.

On a more serious note, your remark relating to personal safety; I beg my daughter not to walk around with her airpods in and whenever I take my dog to the woods for a walk, on my own, I am acutely aware of how vulnerable I am and I doubt very much that it crosses the mind of anyone other than a biological female. I hadn't actually ever thought of it in that particular way before now.

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As a man, let me tell you that if I was to go for a walk in a city park, I too would worry. Doesn't matter if I'm a tough guy or not. I've been in enough fights to know what's real and what's Hollywood, and that includes waking up in the ER, helping friends who's ben cut up or stabbed or in one case had their head smashed with a bat so you could see the bone.

@TeeJae: black men (in the US) should worry more if they see another black man, seeing as they are both the most common perpetrator of violence, especially against black men, and the most common victim of same. Look it up in the FBI database. Black men cause about as much violent crime as all the other race groups put together, despite making up some 13-18% of the male population, if that. Cops are not a danger to them, that's just media hype with a political purpose.

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I am fully aware of the media hype, but the number of black men (and boys) needlessly killed and/or brutalized by law enforcement is still a fact, and the high prevalence of black-on-black crime (70% as of Aug 2020) does not negate that fact. Context and perspective matter here: a) the majority of it is gang related, b) it's not much higher than white-on white (62%), and c) the comparison of homicide stats are even closer, at 90% for b-on-b versus 84% for w-on-w (per FBI's 2016 data).

Sources:

https://abcnews.go.com/US/black-black-crime-loaded-controversial-phrase-heard-amid/story?id=72051613

https://www.theroot.com/why-we-never-talk-about-black-on-black-crime-an-answer-1819092337

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So why point the finger at cops specifically, while not mentioning any context and perspective intially?

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Because it's irrelevant to my main point about the fear induced in black males when they see cops, specifically. It was only required to address your arguments.

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As a biological female, I concur. And as a white person, I'd imagine it's the same type of feeling black people (mostly men) have when they see a cop out in public.

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Channeling me, you are! This line might have sealed the deal: "how the fuck would you know?" Summarizes pretty much all the banal, half-baked, stupid crap passing for thought these days!

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In D, you can get a heavy fine if you call someone by their old aka real name and sex. And in CH, you can now be thrown into jail for up to 3 years for it and related 'crimes' against insanity. https://sciencefiles.org/2022/08/01/furchtbare-juristen-in-zuerich-ist-christentum-nicht-mehr-zeitgemaess-aus-der-bibel-zu-zitieren-nun-strafbar/

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"crimes against insanity" - I'm so borrowing this.

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Gender is just cosplay is true. And it is so very TERFy. Because whether they are on a Kardashian or a Jenner, fake mammaries and lipstick and high heels are just cosplay and “feminine” only because we say so. If you want womanly, seek out an old issue of National Geographic.

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Watched the women's 7s rugby game between Australia & NZ. There is no way that they could handle any of the men in their teams, the guys would have a field day. It would be demoralizing for them.

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Great post. I love how you're clarifying the nuances in these articles on biological sex and gender. And always sprinkled with some humor, which I love. 👏💕

It is so interesting how (mostly young) people are describing gender fluidity in terms of traditional gender expression. For example if a woman feels like a man that day, she will dress in culturally traditional male clothing or colors (as far as I gather).

I like the openness of gender expression for men and women. But just like anything, if the person is radiating narcissism, brittleness, or their personal trauma, it comes off distasteful. Some, perhaps many narcissistic, brittle and traumatized people are using this gender identity movement to ease these difficult inner states. At the extreme, it will take us into fascism.

Brad Pitt can rock a skirt because of his confident and personable inner state as he's wearing it (and he's gorgeous to boot). I saw another man in a dress recently at a hot springs. It felt like a display of his weakness born of trauma, and it turned me off.

Brad Pitt:

https://youtu.be/0xrgnuv0Zw4

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If ever there was a word lending itself to innuendo, it's "genderfluid"...

The underlying psycho-social difference between men and women, which are the only sexes and genders among humans, can easily be summed up thusly:

"Women like to talk about doing things: men like to do things to talk about"

It really is that easy.

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